It all started with the day I had an appointment with the gynecologist. I had decided to have my Mirena spiral removed, to start with the pill
Why?
Because I have always had a lot of acne and pimples from an early age. After trying many different products and visits to the dermatologist, nothing helped. I myself have Asian skin that is very oily. The doctor recommended a special kind of pill that would help me with acne. Secretly I already jumped in the air with hope for a relief from that terrible acne. But I couldn't hope too much after so many failed attempts.
From Mirena spiral to the pill
The doctor had removed the Mirena IUD and started my new pill in the hope that it would work. After taking my pill nicely every day for 1.5 months, I finally started to see a small reduction in my acne.
That "one week"
A few weeks later there was one week where I didn't feel so well. I had a lot of intestinal complaints, maybe I ate something bad? There was even one day when I literally couldn't get out of the toilet. But during that week I had intercourse with my partner several times. 2 days after that I had to get my period. Normally I am always on time but was already a few days late ..
But as you already know, the pill is not 100% but 99.99% reliable. The pill does not work as well if you have vomiting or diarrhea. My breasts started to feel very sore, felt nauseous in fits. I decided to buy a few pregnancy tests. I could only test this the next morning. The next morning I woke up, put on my dressing gown and went straight to the toilet. I opened the box that contained the pregnancy test and took the test. I coudn't believe my eyes so i took a few other pregnancy tests.
And yes all of them with a big fat unexpected POSITIVE +++
I'm Pregnant?!
The big question WHAT NOW?
What now ? Are we ready for this? Can we handle this? How do we do this? Isn't this very badly timed? So many questions that I couldn't answer at the moment. In panic, I immediately called my best friend (also the godmother of Leana) hoping for answers and comfort. Within 5 minutes she was already at the door, she stormed in and immediately gave me a big warm hug. I burst into tears. I asked her what to do or how to tell Tom? I decided it might be better to tell Tom right away and not wait a few days. Short pain. I also didn't know how he was going to react as this was very unexpected. I messaged him "baby can we have a chat after work?" At that moment a lot of alarm bells will start ringing at him, every man immediately starts to panic when he receives a message like that from his wife / girlfriend :D As soon as Tom came home from work, we immediately went to the nearest cafe to have a drink on the terrace. It was a beautiful sunny day. We chose a table in the shadow and ordered our drinks to cool down. Tom ordered himself a beer and I a Coca-Cola. The moment had come that i would tell him the big news, I let Tom have a good sip of his beer first before starting the conversation. "Well my love I have to tell you something, from now on you will drink for three and I will eat for two because I am not allowed to drink alcohol anymore". At that point I gave him the positive pregnancy test. Only then did Tom realize that the time had come. That he was going to be a father. He took all of this very well which I had not expected at all! Together we embraced the idea of becoming a small family and taking our little miracle into our arms within a few months. Very unexpected but super welcome!
Future plans
I have always been a person who made a whole step-by-step plan about the future and saw the whole picture of travel, house, garden,.. It had to be how it was planned in my head or my whole world would collapse. But if there is one thing that I have learned and experienced is that you cannot plan the future, that not everything goes as you want it to go.
No MUST
For Tom and I it was not a MUST to have children. We would be equally happy without children and try to travel the world. But if we had to decide to start with making a family, we would prefer just one child. It was one or none and preferably by my 30th. Before we could think about that, we first had to sort things out. First, the renovations in our new house have to be completed, my course has to be completed, i had to build a career first. But nothing is going the way you expect it to. 2020 what a year.
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